How many of us have blogged about our marriage? And I don’t mean in order to ooze over the awesomeness of our husbands/wives? It is difficult to blog regularly and not implicate the very people that are closest to us. In a way I’m lucky – David doesn’t read my blog. Oh, I think he likes for me to think that he does, but he doesn’t. I could pretty much say anything about him and he wouldn’t know. However, is that preventing us from utilizing an alternative means of communication?
MSNBC recently published an article about how many couples use blogging as a way to air grievances in their marriage and as a result, solve problems. Personally, I would never do this. It seems rather passive-aggressive to me to complain about your husband on your blog before you would address that problem directly to him. Don’t get me wrong, I am the queen of passive-aggressive behavior. I have been known to not do laundry, mumble under my breath, and sulk in privacy. However, even I wouldn’t air my dirty laundry on this blog. Yes, that means that everything I’ve ever complained about here I have already complained about twenty-times over directly to David.
Technology is playing a more intricate role in marital relationships. When arguments get particularly sticky for David and I we resort to instant messenger. I’ll sit in the family room, he in his office. The time it takes to type and the premeditation of the message, allows us to have far more productive conversations. David and I have successfully resolved large issues in our relationship via instant messenger. What about texting? email? Are these methods supporting good marital communication or providing us with an easy out to actually having human contact? Do we blog about our partners because we don’t have the courage to discuss these things face to face?
How about you? Do you and your partner use alternative means of communication? Do you text message your fights? Email your complaints? Have you blogged about a problem with your partner that you had not previously discussed?
This is a very thought-provoking post. My husband does read me blog, and would be upset if I said anything derrogatory about him. We do IM a lot during the day, but never about anything important. Next time we have a fight we’ll have to try IMing to resolve things.
We always think it’s funny when Jane blogs about her husband, Dick. Since we know both of them in real life it makes for interesting discussions all around.
I usually only make a few gripes by blog,..like our snoring chorus in the night. Not the major grievances. Those……we talk about in person.
Beth – good post.
I have my lines in the sand as a blogger and one of them is my marriage is not blog fodder.
Both my hubs and I are pretty direct in dealing with each other; we’ve been married almost 14 years so we have time and experience on our side.
But I do love how useful technology is in keeping up with each other during our busy days. We can give each other news bulletins and then focus on real talk when we do see each other at the end of the day.
Good stuff!
My husband is a road warrior. If it were not for email I probably wouldn’t be married.